Today I want to share with you the best way to help your child with their weight and with their body image.
We live in a time when so many people, young and old, are experiencing an epidemic of body hate and body dissatisfaction.
Here are some staggering statistics:
- 9 out of 10 women polled “hate” their body.
- 40% of 3 to 6 year old girls are dieting.
- 80% of 10 year old girls have been on a diet at least once.
- The number 1 magic wish of 11 to 17 year old girls is to be thinner.
This is scary. This is the kind of challenge that cuts to our core.
Hating our body, judging it, and believing that it’s unlovable is the royal road to misery and an unhappy life.
Think about it. When we’re born into this world, watch a baby. They’re not sitting there worried about how they’re looking or running around naked, or if they’ve got little bits of body fat here and there. Babies, infants, they are in love with their physiology. It’s just all one. It’s pleasure. It’s play.
Somewhere along the way these amazing little humans learn to hate their bodies. They don’t just simply decide to hate their bodies, we teach them to.
Just take a deep breath. That sounded harsh …. but it is true – our society, the media, our culture and our approach to our body provides the example.
So many children (and adults) are struggling in silence with self-defeating thoughts about their own physical form. We’ve got to change that.
When you feel unhappy in your body, it keeps you small. It limits your personal growth. It stops your best creativity. And it leaves you far short of the beautiful potential that you are born with. Body hate shuts down the soul. It ruins us. It’s a soul crusher.
I know so many parents desperate to give their child the best chance for a loving relationship with their body. There is only one strategy I know that is effective …. it is necessary and it is challenging.
To help your child you need to heal your OWN relationship with your body.
That’s it. Work on you. Work on your relationship with your body. Get to a place, please, as fast as you can where you forgive your own imperfections and where you let go of your own self-criticism.
Stop the fight.
Just stop the war because your children, our children pick up on who we are.
Children are brilliant observers. They’re not good interpreters, but they’re brilliant observers. They will observe mum, dad hating on their own body. They’ll feel it. They’ll absorb it through the airwaves.
The greatest gift you can give your child is to do your own work and do it now and stop the nonsense in your own head.
When you do work on yourself, you save future generations from pain and suffering. And you uplift them in ways that they’ll never know.